I see so many good parents and bad parents, and I also see so many couples who aren’t parents that should be. 😦 It’s not fair, and there doesn’t seem to be the right balance.
I’ll admit to being a little jealous when I see people with their children, however it just warms my heart to see couples who are SO appreciative and loving towards their children. You can really tell when their kids are their top priority. I’ve seen parents on facebook say how blessed they are to have children, and I see caring, patient mothers with their babies at my job (Children’s Hospital) all the time. Sadly, it seems rare…even though that’s how it should be. Children are a precious gift.
I think infertile couples have a special appreciation for their kids, although I’ve seen just as many fertile couples who absolutely adore their babies & they are their world. I’ve seen both sides complain quite a bit about their lives. I know it must be difficult dealing with very little sleep, tantrums, and other daily stressors. I definitely don’t live in a fantasy world where I think kids are easy or that it’s all love and cuddles. Being a parent is the most difficult job of all…but it is the BEST and the most rewarding job.
I get so outraged when I see people who just throw away their kids, like they mean nothing. My cousin has 3 beautiful children, but she doesn’t have custody of any of them. Drugs and alcohol and whatever she wants to do comes first. Our new neighbors constantly scream and curse at their kids. Dropping the F bomb around their 3-4 years olds. Ridiculous! Not only are they scaring their children – but what kind of example is that to set for them?! I have about had it with them!!! And my parents, well, I grew up in a very chaotic, abusive household around drugs and alcohol. I was always neglected and felt more like a burden than a blessing. I was never a top priority. Why would anyone treat kids that way? It blows me away!
Andy and I aren’t perfect, but we are kind, loving people. Kids are ALREADY our top priority, and we don’t even have any yet! We rarely raise our voices to each other or anyone else. I know we could set a good example. Both of us have worked hard to get where we are today, put ourselves through school, and we’ve overcome many challenges….except for this one. We have wanted to be parents for a long time now. In a way, I’m glad it didn’t happen right away. I know we are more mature now and ready for the unpleasant parts of parenting. I just can’t believe it’s taking this long…or that it may never happen. But we are hoping… and I’m hoping for all of you, too.