Just trying to sort through it all

I’m sorry I ended up getting a little upset by a couple comments on my last post. I know everyone means well and are just trying to help. Someone said maybe I should stay quiet right now if I don’t want advice. I do want advice and support. I promise not to get all sensitive and take things the wrong way. I do need your help. I can’t do it alone. 😦

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11 thoughts on “Just trying to sort through it all

  1. You are going through so much right now, it is completely understandable that your emotions and thoughts are everywhere and you have every right to voice those however you like. You are always such a kind, loving, supportive, empathetic person and we all love that about you. Please allow yourself to vent here, be mad, be sad, say what’s in your heart. There is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes things are said that are meant to help but they actually end up hurting. Anyone in the infertility and miscarriage world has experienced those things and knows how bad it hurts, even if well intentioned. If something is said here that hurts you, I think you should say so – otherwise how would everyone know that it’s inappropriate to say to you. Know that you are not alone.

  2. While I agree that when we blog, we put ourselves out there, I also believe it is meant to be an outlet for our own emotions and feelings. In your previous post, I think you were just sorting through your thoughts and feelings at the time. While everyone may not agree with your thoughts and feelings, I think the best thing right now is for you to get the support and comfort you need. As I reread your post, you were never asking others for their opinions of what you should do….you were just grieving and trying to process this whole situation. You are allowed to do that, and I HATE that you feel like you have to apologize. You are allowed to think what you want to think and feel what you want to feel. IT IS YOUR BLOG and you can write what you want to write. Please don’t stop blogging….many of us are cheering for you and supporting you no matter what you choose….even if it may not be the choice that another would make. You are a beautiful person and will be a great mother…one way or another. Many of us support you 100% in whatever you choose. Don’t let someone’s post or comment get you down…you have enough to deal with right now. ((hugs)) and prayers for you and Andy during this difficult time.

  3. Please do not apologize. Yes, a blog is essentially a public forum but you are blogging about YOUR LIFE. This isn’t some blog about food, or crafts, or whatever else people blog about {I myself have another blog mostly devoted to recipes and gardening}. Infertility is a big, fat bitch. It is challenging, emotional, and raw. You have every right to say what you feel without exception or apology. Please don’t stop blogging. It is incredibly imperative for your emotional health to have a space to vent your frustrations, to sort things out. A lot of women choose to go private when the going gets tougher. Perhaps that is something to consider, so your followers are those of your choosing: a group of supporters purely there to cheer you on, bad days/upsetting news and all. You are not alone. Hugs and prayers coming your way!!

  4. I do NOT think you need to apologize or feel like you were out of line. It’s your blog, it’s YOUR place to vent. Some advice giving is expected I suppose, and no matter how well intended, I know it can hurt too if people are going places you aren’t ready to go yet. Or worse telling you what you should do. There’s no shoulds here! At best, people can offer advice of what they might do. But with IF, what works for one might not work for another. Like surrogacy- it was an option for us, sure but not one we could afford! (Not that I am against it, but illustrating the point of how personal decisions in IF become…) You reacted with you felt and I think that was okay. We will support you whatever you decide to do. What you need right now is to be heard and feel loved Lots of hugs sent your way.

  5. I agree, no need to apologize!!!!! We love you for who you are and how you are reacting to this life changing news…. Share your thoughts and your feelings… all of them, because they are real reactions to what IF can do to us. Be heard and air out all of your thoughts. We’re here for you!

  6. Girl you dont have to apologize! If you want to come on here and rant and rave and cuss everyone and their momma out thats you prerogative! I think you should say how you feel and let it out! Dont bottle it up! You are going through alot and have alot of decisions to make. Nobody has the right to tell you to keep quiet! Scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you feel better! ❤

  7. Lisa, I’m so sorry if I hurt you in any way. It wasn’t my place to say anything at all, and I hope you can forgive me.

  8. Much ❤ and prayers for you Lisa. I just read your previous posts and I'm so sad for you and your husband. I truly hope there is a miracle waiting for you both. I have followed your journey this far and will continue to do so until you are holding your precious bundle…I just know it will happen for you one way or another! ❤ ❤ ❤

  9. ugh! don’t apologize. If people don’t like what you say they are free to stop reading. This is your blog and you are free to feel however you want and write whatever you want. You do such a good job of making sure you don’t say anything offensive, but honestly, I have learned that there is always somebody out there ready to take offense. Praying for you and Andy! Nobody should ever have to go through this and I pray that you get a take home baby soon.

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