I am shaking and crying right now. I wanted answers, but I never thought it would be so terrible. Completely devastated does not even explain how I feel.
Dr. Sher says I have the most profound autoimmune issues that you can get. First, I have Natural Killer Cells. I also have “Complete Alloimmune Implantation Dysfunction”. Next – and this is rare – Andy and I are a complete match with our genetic tests. This is NOT a good thing. Since his sperm and my eggs are so similar, my body will destroy the embryo every time because of my autoimmune issues. We will never get past a chemical pregnancy.
We only have a couple options and they are not good! 😦 😦
1. Use a surrogate with my eggs and Andy’s sperm because the surrogate’s uterus would not attack the similar genetic material like mine would.
2. Use donor sperm with my eggs (in my uterus) via IVF + intralipid therapy to calm my autoimmune problems – but he says this is a long shot that probably still won’t work due to the severity of my problem.
We will NEVER have a baby of our own biological make up unless we use a surrogate. I will probably NEVER carry a baby because it’s such a long shot.
He said we need to do something NOW because time is running out and menopause is approaching. We can’t do anything now.
And I DON’T want these options 😦 😦 WHY?!?!! This has to be some terrible nightmare. Wake me up. FUCK. It’s real. I just told Andy, and we are both heartbroken. Even he’s crying.